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If it doesn’t work...Change it up!

May 24, 2018

I like problem solving. It pisses me off when something I want to work doesn’t. It brings me great satisfaction when I figure out how to make it work. So maybe I get an inherent dopamine buzz when I solve a problem? Either way, it has served me well. Here’s a small example that happened recently to use as a template.


I have a huge garden. It is my primary hobby, brings me great enjoyment, but is a lot of work. And, by definition, is a seasonal endeavor. This is my fifth year doing it. When I started, I had read a few books and knew, essentially, nothing about gardening. Five years later, I know slightly more than nothing. But it is an improvement.


The problem is that what I do know, I tend to forget over the winter. When do I start the seeds indoors? When should I transplant? How much do I harden them off first? What diseases happen and when? What do I need to order? How long will it take for everything to germinate? How much yield am I getting? How many of each plants should I plant? Since I don’t necessarily remember the answers to all of these questions… or any of them, I need to take notes. I’ve always had a nice little 4x6ish leather notebook that I keep in my gardening dry sink (see picture) on the porch. The problem is that I basically never used it.


This year I asked myself why I never used it. The best answer I could come up with was that it wasn’t visual enough and felt like it was way too much work to find the info I was looking for. Really it was just a blank book that I wrote a date on the top of the page and filled in details. Not much structure either. I decided that a month view calendar would would better. As you can see, I’ve kept super up to date. (Though I’m still dreading transferring the early season notes from the other notebook.)


Of course it took me four years to question my paradigm and figure all this out. But the takeaway is: if it’s not working, question it! And keep trying solutions until you find one.




Standard Disclaimer:  In an effort to foil my own perfectionist tendencies, I do not edit my posts much… if at all. Please and typos, mistakes, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing. I focus on getting my content down. An imperfect post completed is better than a perfect post that goes unposted.


If it doesn’t work...Change it up!
If it doesn’t work...Change it up!

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More ADHD 'Kung Fu'

May 1, 2018

Hey. I'm doubling up on my ADHD wisdom today. (I'm posting them for different dates so it looks like I faithfully post every Friday. Shhhh. Don't tell anyone.)

While printing my copy of the mind map in the last post, I ran out of black ink in my printer. Yet, since I'm near the ball, if not on it, there was a backup cartridge in my in my office closet. And, endeavoring to be present in the moment, I checked to see if this was my last black cartridge. It was. So, 'buy new black ink' went directly onto my to do list. I happened to be at my computer, so I ordered 3 new ones right away. But putting it on the list is key. That way it would have happened no matter what before I ran through this cartridge in the next few months.

This sort of ordering a backup before I'm out of something is very much a skill mastered in the restaurant industry where you just can run out of stuff... but also can' have too much of the perishable stuff. But I promise that it is worth doing in your everyday life. 

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I don't know about you, but I'm totally overwhelmed...

Apr 27, 2018

As usual my garden has presented me with many challenges, lots of work, some serious figuring out to do, and not a ton of time or attention with which to do it. But, when times are most overwhelming, it is always the best time to fall back on our systems. So, I made a mind map. Check it out. Now everything is organized. My next step is to assign time estimations to everything and start plugging tasks into my schedule/calendar.
I don't know about you, but I'm totally overwhelmed...

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Free ADHD Educational Series

Apr 17, 2018

First one is tonight! Sorry for the late notice.

Dr. McDonnell is one of my most referred to. She's great.

Free ADHD Educational Series

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Good Friday? Mine was great! Or at least efficient.

Apr 13, 2018

If you can look past the silliness of the title, you'll see this post is about daily schedules. I know that I have posted daily schedules before. But, sometimes it can be a pain in the neck to find older posts. So, I try to post these once in a while for people to be able to use as a current resource. 

I made this schedule the afternoon/evening of 3/29/18. It was a client-free friday, but it was my wife's day off and I wanted to let her sleep. It was shower morning for the kids, which always adds a degree of difficulty. I had to get Delia to school in Quincy/Braintree. Then I had to get Elliot to my parent's house in Newton with him being prepared to spend the day with my Dad. Then I had to drive back to Mattapan to drop of our car for exhaust work. I had to work in a workout. And, it would be nice to actually see my wife on her day off for a least a bit. So, my "day off" wasn't so much a day off. There was much to accomplish. 

I will admit that it didn't go exactly to plan, but basically everything got done in a non-stressful way. There is no way I would have been that efficient without the schedule... and I probably wouldn't have slept well the night before being anxious about how to fit it all in to that one day.

Key: On the left side where the times are, if there is just a time, that is a time that something happens that doesn't really have a duration. Most of the times are preceded by an arrow. In my scheduling shorthand that means that the item to the right of that arrow then time will begin at the time the previous event on the above line ended and go until the time written after the arrow. (Explaining this always makes this sound so much more complicated than it is.) For example: Walking home from dropping off the Subaru begins at 8:15 when dropping off the car ends and continues until 8:40. I only bring this up so that you can read the schedule, as there has been confusion in the past. You certainly don't have to do it this way... though it works really well for estimating times...
Good Friday? Mine was great! Or at least efficient.

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Medication Journal

Apr 5, 2018

I am loathe to give my clients homework. I generally feel that working on the things we are talking about is enough. However, one of the few things I often suggest to my clients is to keep a medication journal. The harsh reality of the world is that ADHD meds are all about trial and error. There is no way to know what drugs you will respond to until you try them. 

Combine that with the fact that we are often not so present in the moment, may be forgetful, and sometimes lack self monitoring skills... and it is really easy to forget, or not even be aware of how a change in medication or dosage is affecting us. This is particularly the case when we are first trying meds and our attention is not great. 

In my experience it can be invaluable to:
  • When you started a new medication,
  • What other meds you were taking at the time,
  • What time of day you took it,
  • If you were consistent with taking it,
  • Was it name brand or generic (even what generic producer,)
  • When you may have changed dosages,
  • How your attention and/or mood were affected,
  • Any feedback you may get from other people in your life.
Trying to remember what you took three years ago and how if made you feel can be really tough. It is a great resource to have an actual log of the details. And, it doesn't have to be too extensive. Just note the change dates and check in with yourself two or three times a week about how you feel. 




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