• I need to work out every day. That can be spin bike, weights, or digging out a bed in the garden. Generally my parenting is more on point if I get my workout in earlier in the day.
• Even though life is crazy, I'm making time to practice the drums every day. I'm not very good and haven't been playing for that long. But I enjoy it; it's "me" time; and it's reasonably physical.
• My wife and I are insisting that we get 1/2 an hour of time together without the kids every day. We call it "rest time." Sometimes it is "rest" time. Sometimes... you can fill in the blanks. But is helps keep us sane and connected. This is especially important because we are pretty exhausted by the time the kids are in bed at night. 
• The kids need exercise every day. And, yes, I actually took them to Milton Academy's football field and ran suicides with them at least one day this week. There has also been some gardening, biking, scootering, basketball, walks, and some playground time.
• I also think it is important to take turns. Thankfully, I was off this week. My wife is in catering sales. So you can imagine what a S-show that has been. But we still managed to switch off a bit so that neither of us was stuck with the kids all day. That way no one gets burned out or resentful. In other words. Don't stop communicating about your needs with your partner. 
• For most folks I'd say, loosen up the rules about screen time etc. But my kids don't respond well when they get too much screen time. We are letting them watch TV when they are eating breakfast and lunch. And, we are watching fun movies after dinner. We've already watched "School of Rock" and are working on "Back to the Future" now. If I absolutely need a break, I'll go with a cooking show or a Rick Steves with the kids. 

Standard Disclaimer:  In an effort to foil my own perfectionist tendencies, I do not edit my posts muh,  if at all. Please excuse typos, mistakes, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing. I focus on getting my content down. In my humble opinion, an imperfect post posted is infinitely better than a perfect post that goes unfinished.

• ADHDers often hyperfocus on new "shiny" relationship and set an unrealistic bar for excitement and novelty that can't be sustained for the life of a relationship.
• Being an executive function disaster certainly has consequences when we're single. But when our lateness, disorganization, forgetfulness, poor time management effect our partner, it's not just our problem anymore. 
• The more people are involved, the more complex a system is created. You, your partner (who both work,) and two or three kids is a lot of responsibility. If one partner feels like they are shouldering significantly more than half of that responsibility it will likely lead to resentment. 
• Often ADHDers unintentionally select a partner who compensates for their weaknesses. For example, someone who is super structured and organized and runs their life like the german train system down to the minute. This usually works for a while but often deteriorates into a parent/child dynamic or learned helplessness. If the ADHD partner isn't expect to be organized, they will never learn. And that can become a burden for the non-ADHD partner. 
• The same dynamic can often lead to resentment for the ADHD partner too. Who wants their wife to nag them just their mom did for 18 years? 
• Lack of attentiveness in interpersonal interactions, if consistent, can make the not ADHD partner feel unheard, unappreciated, and unvalued. 

Standard Disclaimer:  In an effort to foil my own perfectionist tendencies, I do not edit my posts muh,  if at all. Please excuse typos, mistakes, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing. I focus on getting my content down. In my humble opinion, an imperfect post posted is infinitely better than a perfect post that goes unfinished.